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The Holidays

Hello, darlings. Firstly, I’d like to apologize for not posting in what feels like a long time. Secondly, how are you? I know the holidays can be extremely challenging for those of us in the mental illness and invisible disability communities. While anxiety and depression are the most common challenges to overcome for many of you, I know that are a variety of different reasons to struggle.

Whatever your reasons are, it can make enjoying Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanzaa, and other Holidays happening this month, very hard. Those of you who have social anxiety most likely have difficulties being around large groups of people. I know I do. Depression can take the joy out of things.

Those of you with PTSD may end up being triggered by unfamiliar triggers, as well as familiar ones. Some may end up feeling very alone because they don’t know how to express themselves or feel ashamed.

I know it’s hard. I had my own anxiety spike while with family. I was lucky enough to be able to leave, but I know many of you aren’t. I wish I could help you. I wish I could offer more advice than, “just breathe, think positive thoughts.” I know that doesn’t always work. I wish I could hug you or give you a place to get away.

What I can do, is gently suggest you keep hydrated. Drink ice cold water. For those with anxiety, I have found that this forces the body to breathe. What I can say is, try to take care of yourself. Do self-care. Watch your favorite movie. Order your favorite take-out. Take a bath or shower. Listen to your favorite music.

I know much of this is familiar. I also know that it can be hard to do that. But just try. If anything, it’ll minimize (at least some) of what you’re feeling.

And just remember, if you’re feeling anxious, depressed; if your OCD, PTSD, migraines are spiking, it’s okay. You are doing fine. I know you’ll feel as if you’re losing footing in managing, but you’re not. I promise. You are exactly where you need to be. You are beautiful. You are strong. You are fierce. You got this, love.

With love. Always.holidayanxiety1-copy

 

Tattoos

So, this is in light of personal events:

Tattoos are beautiful. I currently have two. Both have meaning. One is for mental health. The other, for my best friend. If you ever find that you are feeling judged for having artwork on your skin, remember: I think you are beautiful. I think you are a piece of art that deserves to be cherished15276755_1646574762306685_4483160122821967872_n.

Migraine Attack

Quick Note, with love:

From Monday to Thursday afternoon, I had a severe level migraine. I still have one, but it’s at a low level now, and I was able to wake up pain-free this morning. This is thanks to going to the E.R for i.v. I did call my neurologist and sadly didn’t hear back before I left.

However, I did just hear from them. The woman told me that I did the right thing for going to the E.R for the pain. She said she would also talk to my neurologist about a rescue medication.

If anyone ever has migraines that cause them to need to go to the E.R, please do not hesitate in doing so. The migraine cocktail is there for those who need it. I know that the University of Kentucky hospital offers magnesium drips and other options to break a migraine attack. If your local E.R offers these, I would definitely suggest asking for them if the cocktail doesn’t work, or you know the attack is too much for it.

And, also, see about asking about rescue medications so you’re able to stay home instead of going to the E.R. I know it’s not fun to go there. But, remember, if you feel you need to go, do not hesitate in going. You know your pain tolerance better than anymore.

The last time I was given very strong medicine, my mother and I repeated the desire have the neurologist on call come talk to us. Please do the same. You’ll have more of a guarantee of getting the help you need.

And, as always, if you are ever scared of being in the hospital, or if you have more questions on this or other topics, please email me!

With love. Always.

Election 2016 Results

I am sorry for not having posted anything on here about Tuesday-into Wednesday morning. I have been trying to wrap my head around this and deal with my own fear. I know many of you are just as frightened, if not more so. My heart has never felt so much fear, and sadness. I cried myself to sleep that night. I woke up in the morning feeling just as scared. I nearly cried when I saw a hat supporting Trump.

You have every right to be angry, to be scared, to mourn. Please do so. Afterwards, allow these feelings to spur you into as much action as you are comfortable with doing. Stand up for yourselves. As women. As people of color. As those who have disabilities. We need to protect each other. Prove that love will always win over hate.

You belong here. no matter if you are illegal or not. No matter what your skin color is. You belong here. I know there has been blatant racism across the country. But you are welcome here. You are loved.

When I am able to start my organization, I will do my best to protect every single one of you. I swear. I will start by doing what I can now.

To anyone who needs to, please do not hesitate to call suicide hotlines. They are posted on the “about” section, but I will post the list at the end of this post, along with my email.

With your feelings, remember, they are valid. If it helps you, join peaceful protests. I know there is one in the Lexington, Kentucky area on the 12th, and there will be information on that at the end of this, as well as other protests if I can find them.

I love you all. If you are able, be proactive. Call your senator to protect the mental health reform:

Mental illness is still being denied by insurers at more than 2 times the rate of physical illness. People aren’t getting the mental health care they need when they need it.

Mental Health Reform, S. 2680, will help. But, time is running out.

Take 2 minutes on Tuesday, November 15th.

Call your Senators.

Tell them to demand a vote on S. 2680 now.

Call (202) 224-3121

Press #1

Enter your zip code

Here’s our suggested message: “As a constituent, I would like the Senator to demand a vote on S. 2680, the Mental Health Reform Act. Mental health parity laws are being broken every day. This bill will help.”

As Lin-Manuel Miranda said in his Tony acceptance speech after Orlando: Love is Love is Love is Love.

Encouragement: LOTR: Two Towers

“’It’s like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger, they were. And sometimes you didn’t want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines, it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. Because they were holding on to something.’

‘What are we holding on to, Sam?’

‘That there’s some good in this world, Mr. Frodo. And it’s worth fighting for.’”

~ J.R.R Tolkien

You’re Not Alone (Buzzfeed)

free mental health resources for coping

Depression:

  • Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (2433) – Can use in US, U.K., Canada and Singapore
  • Suicide Crisis Line: 1-800-999-9999
  • National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK (8245)
  • National Adolescent Suicide Helpline: 1-800-621-4000
  • Postpartum Depression: 1-800-PPD-MOMS
  • NDMDA Depression Hotline – Support Group: 1-800-826-3632
  • Veterans: 1-877-VET2VET
  • Crisis Help Line – For Any Kind of Crisis: 1-800-233-4357
  • Suicide & Depression Crisis Line – Covenant House: 1-800-999-9999
  • Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide: (UK only) 0844-561-6855
  • Beyondblue info line: (Australia only) 1300-22-4636
  • 24/7 Crisis Line:(Canada only) 905-522-1477
  • Lifeline Australia: 13-11-14
  • Teléfono de la Esperanza (Spain only) 902 500 002 / 91 459 00 50

Domestic Abuse:

  • National Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-422-4453
  • National Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline (TDD): 1-800-787-32324
  • Center for the Prevention of School Violence: 1-800-299-6504
  • Child Abuse Helpline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
  • Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-800-548-2722
  • Healing Woman Foundation (Abuse): 1-800-477-4111
  • Child Abuse Hotline Support & Information: 1-800-792-5200
  • Women’s Aid National Domestic Violence Helpline: (UK Only) 0345 023 468
  • Sexual Abuse Centre: (UK Only) 0117 935 1707
  • Sexual Assault Support (24/7, English & Spanish): 1-800-223-5001
  • Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish: 1-800-992-2600
  • Relationships Australia: 1300-364-277

Alcohol & Drug Abuse:

  • National Association for Children of Alcoholics: 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)
  • National Drug Abuse: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Al-Anon/Alateen Hope & Help for young people who are the relatives & friends of a problem drinker): 1-800-344-2666
  • Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
  • Be Sober Hotline: 1-800-BE-SOBER (1-800-237-6237)
  • Cocaine Help Line: 1-800-COCAINE (1-800-262-2463)
  • 24 Hour Cocaine Support Line: 1-800-992-9239
  • Ecstasy Addiction: 1-800-468-6933
  • Marijuana Anonymous: 1-800-766-6779

Youth & Teen Hotlines:

  • National Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663
  • Youth America Hotline: 1-877-YOUTHLINE (1-877-968-8454)
  • Covenant House Nine-Line (Teens): 1-800-999-9999
  • Boys Town National: 1-800-448-3000
  • Teen Helpline: 1-800-400-0900
  • TeenLine: 1-800-522-8336
  • Youth Crisis Support: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009
  • Runaway Support (All Calls are Confidential): 800-231-694
  • National Runaway Hotline: (US only) 1800-231-6946
  • Child Helpline: (UK Only) 0800-111
  • Kids Helpline: (Australia) 1800-55-1800
  • Youth to Youth: (UK only) 020-8896-3675
  • Kids Help Phone Canada: 1800-688-6868
  • National Youth Crisis Hotline:(US only) 800-442-442-4673

Pregnancy Hotlines:

  • Pregnancy Support: 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)
  • Pregnancy National Helpline: 1-800-356-5761
  • Young Pregnant Support: 1-800 550-4900

Gay and Lesbian Hotlines:

  • The Trevor Helpline (For homosexuality questions or problems): 1-800-850-8078
  • Gay & Lesbian National Support: 1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)
  • Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line: 1-800-850-8078
  • Lesbian & Gay Switchboard: (UK Only) 0121 622 6589
  • Lothian Gay & Lesbian Switchboard – Scotland: (Scotland Only) 0131 556 4049

Other Hotlines:

  • Self-Injury Support: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) (www.selfinjury.com)
  • Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention: 1-800-931-2237 (Hours: 8am-noon daily, PST)
  • Eating Disorders Center: 1-888-236-1188
  • Help Finding a Therapist: 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)
  • Panic Disorder Information and Support: 1-800-64-PANIC (1-800-647-2642)
  • TalkZone (Peer Counselors): 1-800-475-TALK (1-800-475-2855)
  • Parental Stress Hotline: 1-800-632-8188
  • Parent Help Line (Australia only): 1300-364-100
  • National AIDS Helpline: (UK Only) 0800 567 123
  • Mensline Australia: 1300-789-978
  • Beat – ED hotline: Helpline 0345 634 1414 Youthline 0345 634 7650 (UK only)

TransLifeline provides toll-free help for transgender and non-binarily gendered people at: 877-565-8860

Sex abuse and assault survivors can connect to the Rape and Incest survivors’ National Network (RAINN) at 800-656-HOPE or at Rainn.org.

People who have anxiety or struggle with talking on the phone can use a text-based app called ImAlive.org to check in with mental health experts and receive help via text message.

If you are in a hostile work environment, you can contact the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) at 1-800-669-4000 or visit their web page.

PsychologyToday.com has a portal where web users can enter their zip code or city name and get connected to counselors and therapists in their area.

My email if you need help: theanxiousfeminist@gmail.com . If you are terrified and in need of a friend, let me know in the email, and I will end up giving you my personal number or snapchat or kik. I am afraid too, but I will be here for you. Always.

I love you.

Migraines

To anyone who reads this blog: Does anyone suffer from migraines? I do. Part of my non-profit organization goal is to help in the research of migraines. I’m going to start sharing my opinions about and my own experiences with migraines, along with sharing scholarly articles already written about migraines. I will also try and share others’ stories, and how migraines can be covered by the American Disabilities Act.

To start off with:

There is already research proving that migraines are a hereditary neurological disease. However, this does not mean that all migraines and headaches are inherited. According to a health article on Daily Mail.com, “Children whose mothers suffered from headaches had double the risk of migraines when they grew up.”

If you wish to read more on Dr. Palotie’s research, please read this article! A side note on this: Dr. Palotie only focuses on classic migraines – so migraines with auras – and his study was done in the U.K.

A Small Life Update

So, I’m one step closer to getting closer to my dream career. I’m now a triple major in Gender Women’s Studies, Sociology, and Spanish. I have the Spanish requirements finished – at least I will after this semester. Next semester, I will be able to focus on the last two majors. And I will slowly be able to do what I need to, to help those in need. 🙂

As someone who has severe and anxiety and chronic migraines, this is huge for me. After 4 years of being held back by anxiety and migraines, I’m starting to take control of my life. I still have anxiety and migraines, but, I have some control over them now and that means the world to me.

I want to help others realise their dreams and potential. To be able to thrive and enjoy life with their disabilities. To realize you can do whatever you want no matter what your disability is is pretty fantastic. I realize that I personally have a long way to go to get there, but I’m slowly finding my way to the path. I have a plan and I’m holding on to it tightly.

You can do it, my loveys. I promise.